How raunchy sex tutorial The Lover’s Guide still sizzles as it celebrates 30 years

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How raunchy sex tutorial The Lover’s Guide still sizzles as it celebrates 30 years

A COUPLE moan in ecstasy as they writhe in the bath, their wet clothes clinging as they passionately kiss. It may sound like a scene from a porn

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A COUPLE moan in ecstasy as they writhe in the bath, their wet clothes clinging as they passionately kiss.

It may sound like a scene from a porn film, but these are real takes from Britain’s first graphic sex education video for the public.

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The Lovers’ Guide shocked the nation when it was released on the high street 30 years ago in 1991[/caption]

Real couple Wendy and Tony Duffield were featured in the video

The Lovers’ Guide shocked the nation when it was released on the high street 30 years ago in 1991.

The erotic series featured seven couples who invited cameras into their suburban homes to film them having sex and show a prudish public how to do it.

The no-holds-barred footage revealed the couples bonking in every position and room, self-pleasuring and indulging in al fresco lovemaking.

It was the first explicit video to gain an 18 certificate — as opposed to an X rating — allowing it to be sold in all high street stores.

While WH Smith and Asda snapped it up straight away, other major shops were more hesitant.

Harrods and Woolworths initially refused to stock it, saying it was not a “suitable product”.

Then, as The Lovers’ Guide hit No1 in the video charts — beating Diehard and Disney’s Little Mermaid — they quickly changed their tune.

It became the world’s bestselling sex video, with 1.3million copies sold in the UK alone.

In today’s digital age — where hardcore porn is available for free at the click of a button — it is difficult to imagine how there was so much hoo-ha over watching real people have sex on screen.

Yet these were very different times, before the internet existed. While some of the couples were later outed as actors, one “real couple” were Wendy and Tony Duffield.

The frisky pair went on to become household names, raking in tens of thousands as professional sex therapists.

They were even embroiled in a legal case involving Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman.

The Hollywood A-listers, who were married at the time, sued a US magazine over reports they needed the sex therapists to help them perform while filming 1999 erotic thriller Eyes Wide Shut.

The stars claimed they had never met the pair.

SEXUAL KNOWLEDGE AND FREEDOM

Talking about how The Lovers’ Guide changed her life, Wendy, who went on to offer sex advice in The Sun, said: “It was crazy. I started being recognised in my local Asda. People would stop me in the street and ask, ‘Is it all right for my wife to wear stockings in bed?’.”

At the time of the video’s release, the UK was in a recession and it helped lift people’s spirits — and improve their bedroom skills.

In fact, a lot of the messages it carried are still applicable today and focus on female pleasure.

For example, the narrator explains how two-thirds of women do not orgasm through penetrative sex alone.

That figure is even bigger today, at 75 per cent, showing the orgasm gap is widening.

Lovers’ Guide director Rob Page believes sex education needs a major upgrade and thinks youngsters could benefit from watching his video instead of accessing porn on the net.

Speaking exclusively to The Sun from his home in New York, he said: “It was explosive. Everybody rushed out to buy it.

“It changed the landscape of how we view sex in the UK for ever, heralding a new era of sexual knowledge and freedom.

“Because of the honesty, accuracy and frankness of its approach, many millions have been encouraged to explore their sexuality, expand their sexual repertoire and enhance their relationships.

“It dispelled myths and taboos. And many were reassured that their own desires and practices were very normal and, at last, were being discussed openly.

“Sex is a wonderful and natural activity which should be enjoyed without fear or danger — after all, it’s the reason we are all here.

“The Lovers’ Guide is a great antidote to the mechanical, superficial and sometimes hazardous world portrayed by internet porn.”

Sexologist Susan Quilliam, who worked on an updated version of the 1972 bestselling book The Joy Of Sex, said: “There are two key brands which have for ever changed the world view of sexuality, The Lovers’ Guide and The Joy Of Sex.”

Here, we share timeless sex tips from The Lovers’ Guide, left, and Sun regulars Alex James and Rhian Sugden review the video.

WHAT WE LEARNED…

The Lover’s Guide was the first explicit video to gain an 18 certificate — as opposed to an X rating — allowing it to be sold in all high street stores

Bare all

BUILD your self-esteem by getting used to seeing yourself naked. Stand in front of the mirror nude and take notice of the parts you love about yourself. The more you practise, the more you’ll start to love yourself.

Last longer in bed

MORE than 40 per cent of men will suffer from premature ejaculation at some point in their lives. “Control and delay” is the best technique to combat this. To do this, self-pleasure until you are on the edge of orgasm then squeeze the tip of the penis. Repeat several times for 15 minutes.

Watch your lover self-pleasure

NOT only is watching your partner touch themselves a great erotic experience but you can also learn first hand what they like. It’s important to set the right atmosphere first. So dim the lights, warm the room and play music. Show care and consideration to your partner as you observe and have a cuddle and kiss after as you discuss what you learned.

Communicate

RESEARCH shows that couples who share their innermost feelings make the strongest partnerships. Tell your partner what you like and what you don’t like – in and out of the bedroom. Being honest and direct will lead to better sex in the long term. But focus on the positives.

Make foreplay coreplay:

MEN feel they have failed between the sheets if they haven’t made their partner orgasm – but women are able to enjoy sex without climaxing. Remember, 75 per cent of women won’t orgasm through penetrative sex alone, so it is important to make foreplay the main meal, not a starter. From ear lobes to nipples, there are 14 erogenous zones, according to experts. Use these to explore your partner’s body with your lips, hands and tongue to make them weak at the knees.

Sex on the brain:

THE mind is the most powerful sex organ, so make sure you stimulate it. One way to do this is by sharing your fantasies with one another. Be more expressive, lose your hang-ups and don’t feel guilty or ashamed to say what you want in bed. As we are visual creatures, try to have sex with the lights on, as watching your partner is a major turn-on.

Sensual massage:

POUR oil over your partner’s body and treat them to a relaxing massage. Don’t focus on full intercourse as the end result. Instead, enjoy seeing and touching your partner naked and exploring their body. Don’t worry about technique, just move your hands gently over their body, helping them relax.

Use sex toys:

NOWADAYS, nearly 50 per cent of couples use sex toys, but people were buzzing about them 30 years ago, too. Ann Summers’ Rampant Rabbit became popular in the Nineties and is still a bestseller today. Research shows that using a sex toy during the act can help bring a woman to orgasm.

‘Ignoring the retro pubic areas . . . it did capture my attention’

– Says ex-Page 3 girl RHIAN SUGDEN

“I HAD never heard of The Lovers’ Guide until just this week and I can honestly say it’s nothing like anything I’ve seen before.

Rightly rated at 18+, this “how to” sex guide covers all the bases on the intimacy front – from positions to problems . . . to a woman giving us a guided tour of her lady bits.

I did giggle throughout but I have to admit, I found it quite interesting too.
Ignoring the nostalgic style and retro pubic areas, it certainly captured my attention.

“I’m not sure if I learnt anything I wasn’t aware of and I didn’t find myself thinking: “I never knew that.” But it did enlighten me on how to improve the foundations of my relationship.

I’m not sure frolicking in a bubble bath fully clothed is that realistic, mind. I won’t be trying that any time soon.

I do think it’s a good watch for people who want to develop a deeper understanding of their sexual relationships and for those who want to appreciate themselves and their partner a little more.

It’s definitely worth the watch, if only for curiosity.

Roll on the updated version, I say – and pass me those 3D specs.”

It is explicit without being at all seedy and genuinely erotic

– Says ex-Blur bassist and Sun writer ALEX JAMES

“I REMEMBER all the ooh la la around this when it came out but I’d never seen it.

As you’d expect, the production values and bouffant barnets are all very much of the time but everything about this video is still relevant today.

Of course, it completely smashed the mould at the time, when sex shops were sleazy and sex education in schools was practically non-existent

It is explicit without being at all seedy, and the fact the couples were clearly relaxed and enjoying themselves meant at times it did achieve the rare quality of being genuinely erotic – and so much porn isn’t.

The total absence of cosmetic enhancement was mighty fine, too.

I have to admit to chuckling when viewers were advised to “feel the balls” but it’s a really good watch.

Even if you know everything there is to know about sex, you might enjoy it in the same way a chef would still take pleasure in watching Delia Smith rustle up a top-notch Sunday roast.

We Brits have a reputation for being uptight about sex but that could all change. TV chefs have put British food right back on the map.

And I reckon more shows like this could do wonders for the team spirit.”

The Lovers Guide

The Lovers’ Guide hit No1 in the video charts beating Diehard and Disney’s Little Mermaid[/caption]

The Lover’s Guide became the world’s bestselling sex video, with 1.3million copies sold in the UK alone
At the time of the video’s release, the UK was in a recession and it helped lift people’s spirits — and improve their bedroom skills
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Wendy says when the Lover’s Guide was released she started being recognised in her local Asda[/caption]

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