DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter’s father is an addict and he has more time for drugs than he does for her.
She is six and has recently been diagnosed with Asperger’s and ADHD.
While I know addiction is difficult, I feel so much anger that he’s not here to support her.
He has told me on so many occasions that he’s trying to kick his habit, but I can’t help but feel like he is not trying hard enough.
I’m 35 and he’s 38. He began taking a concoction of different drugs after we divorced four years ago.
Since then he has become so aggressive and nasty.
My daughter constantly tells me how much she misses him, but I don’t know if I’ll ever trust him to be sober enough to see her.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Unless he seeks professional help for his drug issues it is unlikely that things are going to change.
It would be worth taking a moment to talk to him about your concerns and express the way it’s impacting his daughter.
Tell him how much she misses him, too.
Please get in touch with Adfam (adfam.org.uk), who are there for families of addicts.
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